S. Elle Cameron

All love is a tragedy...

Sharing Is Wearing...

How many of you like to share? What about all the time? Honestly, I don't know if there really is a such thing as a person who absolutely loves to share. Maybe here and there but what about when it comes to our personal space and/or personal things? What happens when it feels like "we" are being violated because of our giving nature?

How many of us have been taken advantage of? I can probably guess that if everyone reading this was in an assembly we'll all raise our hands. The one thing I've always wondered was if people ever really notice when they are taking advantage of someone. It's obvious to the person it's happening to but what about to the one who is "taking advantage"? Is it obvious to them too?

We always tend to quickly point fingers and blame others for something that hurt us or that we've taken offense to but we never stop to think if that person really meant it. Now I know that people should be smart enough to see certain things and understand right from wrong, but let's not give the human race too much credit by assuming that everyone has common sense. Some people just don't know when some things should be said or done. This shouldn't be a surprise, so why is it always?

It seems like in this lifetime when we give a little it somehow translates into a lot. How is it that I can give someone an inch and end up missing a mile? It doesn't make sense that my kindness continuously gets mistaken for weakness. Why is it that no matter how much I give, it's never enough? People always want more. A reader of my novel, A Tragic Heart, stated that one of their favorite quotes is when the main character, Taylor Caldwell states, "I wish I had more. But if I didn't want more, I wouldn't be human; we always want more because we're never satisfied. It has been imprinted on our brain that more is better, when in fact, less is probably more than we need." They said they found this quote very relateable and it was one that stuck in their mind. The sad part is that we tend to want more even if we're the beggers.

The saying goes, "beggers can't be choosers!" But somehow, people always shatter that theory. From my personal experiences, the beggers are always the choosers. What gives people the right to ask you for something and then choose what way it has to be done. Does this piss anyone else off? Of course it does! But to be truthful, we have all been choosy beggers. Shame on us to point the finger at others when we're guilty of the same crime.

Bottom line: no one really likes to give away their personal items/space and no one likes beggers. The only thing we must remember is that we were probably once a begger (or worst! A choosy begger!) or may possibly still be a begger. Sharing doesn't always feel like a caring act. In fact, it can be a very wearing and tedious one. The only way to solve this problem is to listen to the old saying "do unto others as you would like others to do unto you" and of course let's not forget the legendary theory of The Spice Girls, "You have got to give, taking is too easy, but that's the way it is!"